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Living With Your Child With Special Needs


"You're not paying attention." "Don't you know where you put your lunch money?" "Stop fidgeting!" "Don't interrupt."

Can you imagine what it would be like to hear people talk to you this way every single day? If you can imagine it, or if it sounds just like what you're used to hearing, then you know what it's like to have ADHD. Those letters stand for a condition called attention deficit hyperactivity disorder...
I'm a mother of 5 years old boy...and my son it's one of children with special needs. Doctor decided that he is hyperactive positive ( ADHD ) but not autism. I known this when my baby showing unusual things like the other children usually do in their ages.. At that time he was 2 years old...

Kids who have ADHD are not bad, lazy, or stupid. They have a disorder that means they may have problems paying attention or sitting still in their seats. They can also act on impulse - this means doing things without thinking about them first. Kids with ADHD may spend a lot of time in the principal's office. Sometimes they do things that cause them to get hurt. They might change their friends a lot.

Who Gets ADHD?...


About 9% of kids have ADHD. That means out of 100 kids, about 9 of them may have ADHD. So if your school has 300 kids, 24 to 30 of them may have ADHD. Kids who have ADHD usually start having problems in preschool. Boys have ADHD more often than girls. In fact, three times as many boys have ADHD, but no one knows why.
A kid might have a greater chance of developing ADHD if one of his or her relatives already has ADHD or another type of behavior problem. But no one is sure why anyone has ADHD, although scientists and doctors think that it probably has to do with differences in the way people's brains work. No one gets ADHD on purpose, so it isn't ever anyone's fault. And ADHD isn't contagious - you can't catch it from someone like the flu. What Are the Signs of ADHD?

ADHD can cause kids to act in different ways, depending on who has it. Most kids with ADHD have problems concentrating and paying attention. Some kids with ADHD might also have trouble sitting still in class and waiting for their turn. They might yell out the answers before other kids have a chance to raise their hands.
Sometimes they can be disorganized, distracted, or forgetful. They might lose things and have trouble finishing assignments. They may wiggle around in their seats, move around a lot, talk too much, or interrupt other people's conversations.

It's important to remember that everybody does these things once in a while. It doesn't mean you have ADHD. Checking It Out When parents and teachers suspect that a child has ADHD, the first step is to visit the doctor. He or she may then refer the kid to a specialist like a psychologist, psychiatrist, or neurologist who knows about kids who have ADHD and other kinds of behavior problems. Part of the doctor's job is to check for other illnesses that look like ADHD but need different kinds of treatment. If the Doctor Says It's ADHD.

Once the doctor determines that a kid has ADHD, then the doctor, parents, and teachers begin to work together to find out the best way to help. Often this means starting one of the medicines used to treat ADHD, deciding how much medicine is needed, and when to give it. Children with ADHD usually only have to take their medicine once before school, but some may have to go to the nurse in the middle of the school day for medicine.

But children who have ADHD need more than just medicine. They also need help learning how to change the way they act. Some kids with ADHD can learn to do this by using relaxation therapy or behavioral therapy. In relaxation therapy, counselors teach kids how to relax and stay calm by doing deep-breathing exercises and relaxing different muscle groups.

Behavioral therapy helps kids with ADHD by teaching them to set goals for themselves and by using rewards to help them reach those goals. Teachers can give a kid with ADHD a reward for sitting still in class, for example. And parents can do the same thing at home, by rewarding their children for paying attention, completing their chores, or keeping track of their things.

Kids with ADHD may need extra help learning how to do things other kids find easy. Kids who have ADHD can become depressed or anxious. So for many kids with ADHD, the key to success is not only following the treatment plan from the doctor, but working to build good friendships with other kids, too. Many kids with ADHD find that their symptoms get better as they get older. Adults with ADHD can have happy lives, and they can be very successful in whatever they decide to do.
Living with a child with special needs can be a joy and a challenge. Manage your family, social and emotional issues with these articles and resources on the Parenting Special Needs site.

The things you have to do if your baby is one of the 'special needs child are :....

  • Behavior Strategies
When kids can't understand or control their own behavior, it's all up to the parents to make things work. Find some useful techniques for managing and modifying behavior in children with special needs.

  • In the Community
Your community may not always seem like the most welcoming place for your child, but helping others get to know him and introducing her to the world beyond your family are worthwhile pursuits. Find some ways to get your child out and about, and to handle the problems that may come up.

  • Life Skills
It may seem easier to just do everything for your child than to put up with error-filled attempts. But ultimately, both you and your child will benefit from efforts to teach basic living skills. Find some help in making that happen in a slow, steady, smooth way.

  • Sibling Issues
Brothers and sisters of children with special needs have special challenges of their own, including finding their place in a family that may seem preoccupied with one sick child, and dealing on a daily basis with behavior that may be hard to understand. Read more about how to help the whole family at a trying time.

  • Marriage Issues
Parenting a challenging child can put a great strain on a marriage. It doesn't have to tear you apart, though, if you learn how to work together and devote some time to each other.

  • Special Occasions
Holidays and special times with extended family should be a wonderful and enriching time for your child, but all too often it's a source of stress, strain, and hopelessness. Adjusting your expectations of everyone involved -- including yourself -- can make a big difference.

  • Planning for the Future
What will happen to your child when you're gone? The time to start answering that question is now. Right now.

  • Stress Management
There's pretty much no way for the parent of a child with special needs to avoid stress entirely, but you can manage it instead of letting it manage you. Here are some techniques for taking control.

  • Support and Inspiration
Knowing that others have been there, done that, and survived is an empowering thing for parents of children with special needs. Find some inspiration and companionship to help you make it through the day.

If your baby needs some help from the expert and you are living in Batam area, I have some alternative special school choices for them :

* Yayasan Putra Kami *
Komp. Anggrek Mas Blok I no. 38 Batam.
Tel. No. : +62 - 778 - 463913

* Yayasan Keluarga Batam ( YKB ) *
Jl. RE. Martadinata, Sekupang - Batam.
Tel. No. : +62 - 778 - 322347

As a parent we have to believe that GOD give us 'special child' coz we are 'special parent' for them..so, never give up and keep on spirit !!!!..GBU...

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Daniel Isn't Talking


Bonjour Bloggers,,,

In my previous post I'm written about an article that tellin' short information about 'special needs' children. Now, in this article...I'm tryin' to write again about one book that I really recommended to all of you to read it.

As u known before...I have a hyperactive son, 'coz of that I never tired to searching and finding information from all of media regarding "special needs children" to help me to find the right way to takin' care of my baby behavior.

A few months ago I found a good book at Gramedia Book Store that's telling a story about autistic children. I got somethin' good after I read this book and I wanna share with you all..here.

The book descriptions are :

Title :Daniel Belum Bisa Bicara (Indonesian Version )
Daniel Isn't Talking ( English Version )
Written by :Marti Leimbach
Price :Rp 40.000,- *
Size :13.5 x 20 cm
Total Pages :360 pages

Published :September 2007


Daniel isn't talking...

Daniel Isn't Talking is a moving, deeply absorbing story of a family in crisis. What sets it apart from most fiction about difficult subjects is the author's ability to write about a sad and frightening situation with a seamless blend of warmth, compassion and humor.

This book is tellin' a story about Melanie and Stephen who have two children. Emily, who is four years old and Daniel who is three years old..who likes to play and is full of joy.

Daniel on the other hand cries uncontrolled and isn't cooperative. Living off biscuits and sweets. By the age of three he still hasn't spoken.

Melanie very nervous and scared about Daniels behavior. Her husband Stephen believes that Melanie protects and is over reacting about Daniel. Melanie believes Daniel has a serious problem and Daniels doctor diagnoses him with autism, Melanie is crushed.

She thought by the age of three, there would have been more warnings signs and that he would have been diagnosed at birth. Her husband wants to send Daniel to a special school with other children like him. But, Melanie believes that he is better off at home...and Melanie Stephen become distant and argue a lot.

Melanie has to accept the fact that Daniel will never be the same as children his age, unable to do things like feeding and dressing himself. As you read...Daniel isn't talking...you will think to your self ...
"What would I do in Melanie position ???"...

I would recommend reading Daniel Isn't Talking if you have or know a child with autism, also if you are interested in family life.

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If U Luv Someone....

Tak' ada kata terlambat untuk mencintai seseorang....

Terlambat..???
Enggak ada yang terlambat dalam mencintai seseorang...
Saat kau benar-benar mencintai seseorang ...
Walau kau terlambat menyadari namun itu bukan akhir dari cerita cintamu..
Namun, saat kau mulai menutup diri, dan menyerah berarti barulah kau terlambat...
Dan menjadi orang yang tak perlu lagi diperhitungkan...!!


Merelakan..Melepaskan??
Kedua hal yang mengharukan saat-saat kau mencintainya dengan segenap hatimu...
Kau benar-benar menawarkan perasaan cintamu..
Hingga kau rela melepaskannya jika ia memang akan bahagia..
Lebih baik melihat orang kau cintai tak lagi bersamamu,
dibanding kau bersamanya dan membuatnya jenuh...
dan tak bahagia berada di sampingmu...
Saat kau menyadari semua tidaklah kejam untukmu..
Namun kau beruntung dapat menyadari perasaan itu...


Menyedihkan..??
Ya..menyedihkan itu tepat untukmu yang menderita dalam percintaan ..
Saat cintamu tak berbalas..
Atau orang kau cintai telah berkhianat...
Tapi kau bukan orang yang paling menyedihkan...
Namun, Sadarilah..
Dia yang melukaimu lebih menyedihkan lagi darimu...
Karna tanpa ia sadari...
Ia menyia-nyiakan mu yang telah sangat mencintainya...


Salah Mencintai..??
Hanya dengan mencintai kau melihat dirinya sangat sempurna..
Namun mencintai bukan suatu kebutuhan tapi suatu pilihan..
Saat kau menganggap cinta itu bagai kebutuhan..
kau tak akan rela melepasnya...
Kau hanya boleh menyadari dia adalah pilihan mu
bukan suatu kebutuhan yang harus memenuhi hidupmu...
Maka kau akan sakit dan tak rela bila kau kehilangannya...


Cinta itu enggak selalu indah..
Seindah dongeng cinderella berakhir bahagia..
Atau romeo en juliet dgn kisahnya yang abadi...
Namun, kau bisa mencobanya...
Namun saat kau tak berhasil menciptakan cerita2 indah...
Kau hanya bisa merelakan nya...
Saat yang tepat kau akan temukan seseorang yang lebih baik dan mempesona...
Karena dibalik semuanya Tuhan mempunyai rencana yg indah untukmu....



* Disaat ku sadar bahwa ku tidak salah mencintainya *

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Subang Mas Island

Ciao Bloggers !!!...


Is there any one of u love to make a fun journey with your friends to another islands ??? If the answer is " YES " perhaps all of you will interest to go to this island after I tell you 'bout my experiences when I was spent my time in this isle' for one day only. Around November last year, when I was workin' with McDermott Indonesia, PT...I was arrange a journey to the small island that the location isn't far from Batam Island, the island is called SUBANG MAS.

Subang Mas is a small island located outside Batam, actually in the southest of Batam. It's only 20 - 40 minutes to reach this island, depends on the transportation. You can go there by small ferry boat or Pompong ( small wooden boat with machine ).

The 1st time I know 'bout this isle' is from a man ( I forgot his name )...He is a supplier that always come to my office. He was offering me a holiday package to Subang Mas Isle'...and from him I know that he is one of the Sales Marketing for promote this isle'. From the brochure that he gave to me, I really interested to visit this isle...coz' I really-really wanna' go there with my friends before my last day workin' with PTMI. That's why I tried to forward the brochure to all of my friends, especially in QA/QC Department and they were interested to have a journey with me. For one day package it's only spent around 135,000,- rupiah only ( included transportation 2 ways pick up service, boat fee, snack and lunch ).

After I got around 6 persons that already confirmed wanna' have a short holiday with me, I called that man and arranged d' place for pick up me and my friends. We choosed Batam House ( it's a place for stay / mess for PTMI employees who hired from outside Batam, for men only ). After wait for an hour, around 09.00 am, they pick up us with 2 cars. We went to Punggur seaport. Because only 7 person who followed this holiday, so we went to Subang Mas isle' with pompong. Me and my friends really excited with our journey, 'coz this is the 1st time for us to go to another island with pompong.


We arrived at Punggur around 10.00 am....and the trip begun...

It's really excited guys....I really enjoyed my time in the sea....used pompong it's a bit scared..coz' the boat isn't big enough and you can touch the sea water...I can't imagine if we met a big wave in d' sea...luckily we arrived safe in the isle' after around 45 minutes.... OMG...the isle' it's really beautiful... They made a wooden jetty so the visitors can easily reach the island.

Click...click...click... ( sounds of camera )..yup..we doesn't want to missed every single part of this beautiful island. We taken a lot of pictures there. The sea smell, the white sands, the blue sea water...and really clean in there...so naturally...
After put all my stuff in a small house...I went to swimming in the sea with my friends... It's so fun guys.... After we tired played with the sands...we enjoy the lunch that already prepared with local citizen there... and they are really good chef..the taste of the foods it's sow yummy....sluuurrpppp !!!. They cooked a lot of foods like Gonggong, Chicken Curry, Grilled Fish....ehmmm....
After we full...they invited us to lookin' around the isle'...we meet a local citizen there...we walking around seein' how their daily live. Commonly they are a fisherman.... They told me that there's no electricity in there only genset. The genset only available on 06 pm to 10 pm only....can u imagine that ?...Around 05 pm...me and my friends have to go back to Batam again....

It's really sad to leave this island actually. We feel that we wanna' spend more days again. Coz' we wanna feel the natural life in here... Oh yup for notes, they also provide small tent, if u wanna spend nite in there...it's like camping guys...enjoy the nite in this island...I really want it..but it's seems impossible, coz' we had to go back workin' in the day after.

Before we went back to Batam...we had a chance to take some pictures again for our memory...

So bloggers... if u wanna run away for a while from your daily activities that make u headche... I really recommended you to go to Subang Mas Island... the small island but give a big impact for me especially.... Just proved it guys... !!!!





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Marine Batam Expo ( MBE ) 2009

Batam is popularly known as an island which have more than 80 shipyards in its region. They are consist of small until large scale of manufacturing yard.

Marine Batam Expo will bridge t
hem with ship owners, decision makers and other interested parties.

Present all the new engineering and technology works of marine and offshore industry.

Claimed to be the first and biggest Exhibition in Indonesian
Archipelago. This is the home of quality marine worldwide participants, which hosted by Exhibitions, Conferences, Seminars and Entertainments.

Exhibition which you can truly experiences mutually networking sessions. Marine Batam Expo 2009 is the one-stop market for the region's marine, Offshore Oil and Gas community, showcasing the latest in maritime engineering.

Hailed as Batam foremost Regional Asia Maritime Event, MBE offers a holistic business experience by combining exhibition, conferences and seminars, and a host of networking sessions that connects quality Asia Pacific buyers to international maritime suppliers.

While saving you precious time in sourcing the products that will put your company at the forefront of the maritime business, MBE allows you to explore new international markets and grow your business globally. MBE 2009

High Light :


* Fashion Marine *

Makin' it's debut show in 2008, the MBE Fashion Marine proved a great success in showcasing all exhibitors' innovations and latest products via a glamorous and informative platform.

MBE Fashion Marine injects yet another refreshing trend to how exhibiting products can be brought out of the traditional booth space and unleashes exhibitors' imagination of how to present their products and services to a new dimension.

Concept which is widely accepted. MBE 2009 Fashion Marine is an entertaining product showcase, to explore more of its innovations and bein' informative media pipeline into custom
ers. MBE 2009 Fashion Marine will greatly improve exhibitors product knowledge, it is one of the many ways on how we can embark to a new imaginative idea, yet accomplish the very basic purposes.



* Exhibitor's Nite' *

Well-packed and strategically positioned networking functions at MBE 2009 ensure that all participants will reap the optimal benefit of meeting the right people at the right time, at the right place - Exhibitors' Night.

Networkin' session will hub thru' and weld a warm feeling to interactively solid meeting and discussion. It is a bussiness related gathering yet relaxing.

Their positive feedback led us to more uncompromising concept. This is d' nite' for Exhibitors and VIP's.


* Shipyard Touring *



Why we should visit and join with MBE 2009 :
* MBE provides a Holistic Experience combining exhibition, conference, fringe activities and networking events.
* Strong International Country Representation including China, Canada, Australia, Korea, Malaysia, The Netherlands, Singapore, Uni Emirates Arab.
* More than 200 exhibitors from over 20 countries bringing you the latest cutting edge maritime products, technologies and services.

This event are improving mechanism, a
s they targeted to have 250 booth over 43 for the previous sessions.

The visitors usually from :
- Shipowners

- Ship Managers
- Ship Builders n' Repairs
- Cargo n' Container Terminal Operators
- Classification Societies
- Ship Registrars
- Consultant
- Financiers

- Insurances
- Legal Professionals
- Distributors n' Agents
- Freight Forwarders
- Government Agencies

- Navy n' Police Coast Guards

- Fisheries
- Naval Architects n' Designers
- Offshore Suppliers n' Services

- Port n' Maritime Agents

- Port Authorities n' Services
- Public Administration
- Ship Chandlers

- Ship Operators

- Shippers
- Logistic Companies
- Shipping Agents and Brokers
- Shipping Lines
- Work boat Builder

- Maritime Crewing / Manning / Recruitment Agents

- Other Maritime Organization

This big event will be held on November 24th-26th 2009 at Pacific Palace Hotel Batam.


For more information, reservations and booking' booth, please send email to marketing@marinebatamexpo.com or visit their website in
Marine Batam Expo

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